1 John 4:8 "Anyone who does not love does not know God, because God is love."
A significant other who does not know God cannot properly love you, because they cannot give you what they do not have. And, no disrespect, but if you don't have God living inside of you, neither can you properly love your significant other.
As mere humans, we can only love on conditions: When our relationship is going well, when our significant other is doing what is expected of them, as long as that person continues to make us feel a certain way, as long as that person looks a particular way we prefer or has something that virtually benefits us (money, cars, houses, a great job, etc.), and the list goes on .... But only when the love of God is working in us, are we able to overlook faults and flaws and love in spite of... Only when the love of God is working in us, are we able to endure all things... Only when the love of God is working in us, are we able to give our significant other our best and expect nothing in return.
It is God who enables us to love unconditionally.. That same unconditional love that God demonstrated while we were still sinners, having Christ die for us (Romans 5:8)... For the Believer, it is God who is at work in you, both to will and to work for His good pleasure (Philippians 2:13). God wants to express His love toward your significant other, and He desires to use you to do it!
Want a joyful relationship? Allow God to be the foundation on which it stands. Grace and peace.
**Disclaimer: This devotional was written to Married couples and couples moving toward Marriage. God honors covenant. 'Boyfriend and Girlfriend' is not a real covenant.**
As a writer, my objective is to provoke thought. As a minister, my objective is to encourage you to Christ. As a disciple, my objective is to do these things in love.