Fear causes us to make alot of unwise decisions, especially when it comes to relationships... The fear of feeling left out.. The fear of being single at a certain age (as if being in a relationship is an achievement).. The fear of a person we "think" is perfect for us, ending up with someone else.. The fear of missing out on our childbearing years, and never being able to have children, etc. ..... This type of fear creates desperation.... A desperation that causes us to disregard all wisdom and intellect, and try to force things into place in our lives.. (which ultimately leads to pain and heartache).
But if we would trust in God, we'd see that we don't have to try to create our own blessing... Proverbs 10:22 says that "The blessing of the LORD makes rich, and he adds NO sorrow with it." ..... God knows what we like! He knows what we find attractive. He even knows the very number of hairs on our head (Luke 12:7)! So when GOD blesses us with a mate, He's gonna make sure that we receive everything we wanted, and more! We don't have to chase anyone, we don't have to settle for just anyone who comes our way, nor do we have to randomly date trying to find Mr. or Mrs. Right... All we have to do is wait on God... A slow-cooked meal beats the microwave!
Psalm 37:4 "Delight yourself in the LORD, and he will give you the desires of your heart." ....... Matthew 6:33 "But seek first the kingdom of God and his righteousness, and all these things [Your heart's desires] will be added to you." ........ The only relationship we need to work on, is our relationship with the LORD.... Stay encouraged (reader), aaaaaand wait......
As a writer, my objective is to provoke thought. As a minister, my objective is to encourage you to Christ. As a disciple, my objective is to do these things in love.